When they begin writing 34 / THE POWER OF YOUR OTHER HAND Why would society prefer one hand over another THE UPPER HAND AND. The Power of Your Other Hand book. Read 9 reviews from the world's largest community for readers. Includes exercises and experiments to tap the creative. The Power of Your Other Hand, Revised Edition Paperback – June 20, Recovery of Your Inner Child: The Highly Acclaimed Method for. Lucia Capacchione, a registered art therapist, holds degrees in art and psychology and is a pioneer of self-therapy and healing through.
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Researchers have discovered the vast, untapped potential of the brain's little- used right hemisphere. While Nobel prize-winner, Roger Sperry was exploring the. Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data. Capacchione, Lucia. The power of your other hand: a course in channeling the inner wisdom of the. When you write with the non-dominant hand, you have a direct connection to the right like Power of Your Other Hand and Recovery of Your Inner Child are.
When we meet our Inner Child we often discover that our childhood needs were not met -- needs for love, safety, trust, respect, and guidance. The absence of these basic conditions may have brought about a state of chronic anxiety, fear, shame, anger, and despair in our Inner Child. Recurring emotional and physical problems in adulthood are a sign that the Inner Child is trying to speak.
When basic human needs go unfulfilled, the individual is at high risk for developing abusive behavior toward self and others, creating problems in virtually all areas of life.
It is also a well-known fact that family violence sets up a chain reaction.
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Parents violate their children. When those children grow up and become parents they often abuse their own children, and so on. Addicts who become parents frequently have children who become addicts. The brand of addiction may change -- an alcoholic mother may have a drug-addicted son -- but the pattern is the same. Violence and addiction are a tragic downward spiral. They get handed down from one generation to the next and have become epidemic in our society. As individuals, how can we build our adult world on the shaky foundations of a frightened and isolated child who never got its basic needs met?
It can't be done. Sooner or later a crisis hits -- an illness, divorce, career upheaval, or financial disaster -- and the structure crumbles. The mask of the adult persona begins to crack. At this point, some individuals look inward to examine and reevaluate their lives. They may seek assistance from therapists and self-help books, or join support groups where it is safe to acknowledge the damaged Child Within. If you identify with this scenario, let me suggest that you use this book as part of your own personal program of healing.
Complement this work with a support group, a step program, therapy, or workshops.
Inner Child healing cannot be done in isolation. After all, that little Child Within has been alone long enough.
It is essential that we all find companions along the way -- other individuals who are committed to caring for their own Inner Child. A support system creates a foundation for truly loving relationships. It is important to remember one thing, however. Only you can re-parent your Inner Child. No one can do it for you. Only you are responsible for knowing and meeting your Inner Child's needs. So if you have been looking for love in all the wrong places, for someone to take care of your Inner Child for you, this book can help.
It can also help you stop rescuing other people's abandoned and abused Inner Children. Re-parenting themselves is their responsibility. Many therapists are including "Inner Child work" in their practice with groups and individuals. Workshops and books on the subject are plentiful. And yet in my lectures and seminars throughout North America, many people tell me they are struggling with Inner Child work. They have read countless books, written personal histories, and shared their childhood fears and traumas in therapy and support groups.
Yet they are still confused and unable to feel their Inner Child and bring it into their everyday lives. Many have reported that they had their first true experience of the Inner Child at one of my workshops or while doing exercises in my earlier books.
They are the ones who encouraged me to share these methods of Inner Child healing in a book. It is one thing to talk about the Inner Child; it is another thing to consciously experience it as a real living presence. Unless we "become as little children," we will not be healed.
Unless we enter into the Child state in a safe setting, the Child Within will remain isolated and alone. Unless we reclaim our childlike feelings, sensitivity, wonderment, and aliveness, our Inner Child will remain wounded.
How do we know that our Inner Child is present? When we have feelings. The Inner Child is the emotional self. It is where our feelings live. When you experience joy, sadness, anger, fear, or affection your Child Within is coming out. When you are truly feeling your feelings you are allowing your Inner Child to be.
Your Child Within is also active when you are being playful, spontaneous, creative, intuitive, and surrendering to the spiritual self. The experience of these states is often referred to as "being in your Inner Child.
Through drawing, writing, creative arts, and play you will find the voice of the Child who lives within you. You will discover its needs and wishes. You will also learn to activate the loving Parent Within who can nurture and protect that Inner Child. For no child exists in a vacuum. Our Inner Child will automatically draw out either a positive, supportive Inner Parent or a negligent and critical one.
Without awareness, we automatically repeat the kind of parenting we received as children. We parent ourselves the way we were parented.
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However, if we do not like the way we were parented, we do have a choice. We can change. We can create a loving connection between the members of our own Inner Family and heal the wounds of childhood. We can re-parent ourselves. Psychologically, the Child is indeed "father to the man. As the often quoted phrase promises, "It's never too late to have a happy childhood.
She had been abandoned so long that the only way she could get my attention was through a condition that made it impossible for me to function at all. The symptoms were extreme exhaustion and disorientation. This was aggravated by a series of medical mistakes that began when my condition was incorrectly diagnosed. As a result, the pharmaceutical drugs that were prescribed led to a chain reaction of side-effects. All along my Inner Child knew that I had a serious disease.
But as is so often the case with children, she did not have the words to express what she knew deep down inside. When the doctors used long Latin names, treated me with clinical coldness, and prescribed still another drug, my Inner Child felt intimidated and went further underground.
Secretly she was panicked. For a while I tried to ignore her promptings. I rationalized and excused the inadequate medical treatment I was receiving, trying to believe that the doctors knew what they were doing even though the facts showed otherwise.
Meanwhile, I had begun keeping a journal. I also read some books that had a profound impact on me. At the same time, Carl Jung's Man and His Symbols inspired me to draw my feelings out in the journal. The art that poured forth at this time was clearly coming from the unconscious. It had a strangely mysterious quality, as though I was writing in a foreign tongue. It was filled with symbols that I did not understand intellectually, but which spoke directly to my soul. After these drawings I always felt better physically and emotionally.
In this early drawing, a child appears underground crouching in a fetal position. Her tears of sorrow are watering the roots of a tree in which a heart has been split in half by storms. But up high in the sky is a butterfly, a harbinger of new beginnings. When I did this drawing I had no idea what I was doing or why. The images appeared mysteriously on the page, as if my hand had done the drawing on its own, much like automatic writing.
The symbols came from a very deep corner of the unconscious. This self-reflective journal process led me into therapy. In role-playing I discovered that my Inner Child was filled with rage at the doctors who had misdiagnosed my condition and almost medicated me to death. In another role-play I became a Nurturing Parent with my arms holding an imaginary baby. As I crooned a lullaby, I realized that the infant in my arms was me: This experience was deeply empowering!
I knew that I would no longer submit myself to medical negligence and mistreatment. So when my therapist recommended a truly caring woman physician who practiced preventive medicine, I contacted her immediately. This was a major step forward in my healing. In the next therapy session my Inner Child was encouraged to speak again, this time in writing.
Bond sat me on the floor in front of a large pad of newsprint paper and put a fat kindergarten crayon in my non-dominant left hand. She instructed me to write a contract with myself on how to apply what I was learning in therapy to everyday life.
As soon as I began printing with my awkward, unschooled left hand, I regressed to about age four or five.
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I felt like a very young child just learning to write. This is what my Inner Child scrawled: Give myself permission to let my child out and feel my feelings and say I'm O. My Inner Child had finally been liberated and allowed to speak. It felt as if a huge burden had been lifted from my shoulders. After four years of personal crisis and the stress of juggling family, career, and everyone else's needs, I finally turned inward and embraced my own Inner Child. The cloud of heaviness and low energy I had been struggling with for months suddenly seemed to lift.
Getting in touch with my Inner Child in that session had a profound effect on my physical health. During the session my therapist recommended a physician, Dr.
Louise Light, who she said practiced preventive medicine and educated her patients in self-care. Upon leaving the therapy session a childlike inner voice insisted that I call Dr. Light immediately. I stopped at a telephone booth and made an appointment to see Dr. Light on her first available opening. At my appointment with her a few days later, I found that she paid attention to my feelings as well as my physical condition, something that the other physicians had never done. She treated me with compassion and respect.
My Inner Child could finally relax and feel safe. Both Dr. Light and my therapist, Bond Wright, acknowledged the importance of journaling as part of my healing process. This validation of my discovery and my own experience had great meaning for me. My energy and enthusiasm for life began to return, and within a few weeks I felt well enough to resume work as an artist.
Thinking that I had been "cured," I excitedly started planning a new art project. No sooner had I begun, however, than the old pattern of self-criticism and self-pressure which had contributed to my illness in the first place resurfaced with a vengeance.
As I was writing in my journal one day the voice of inner criticism began shouting in my head. You're not moving fast enough.
You're not good enough. You'll fail Don't push me though let me happen in my time What followed was a lively dialogue between my right hand and my left, between my Critical Inner Parent and a very assertive Child Within. As you will notice, the non-dominant handwriting appears in a different typeface. That will be the case throughout this book. Left Hand: Because I'm tired of waiting -- feels like sitting in a rut -- Left Hand: Right Hand: I know but it seems like so little. Sitting in a rut feels like being shut in -- in the dark -- in the womb -- waiting to be born into the light -- waiting until the time comes naturally -- not forcing, not pushing -- just relaxing and letting life happen and letting me happen naturally What a relief I felt after writing this dialogue.
And what an incredible discovery! I had found the key for dealing with that tyrannical critical voice living within. It was like watching my own fairy tale. My Inner Child freed herself from the spell of the "wicked step-mother" -- the Critical Parent within -- by expressing her natural reaction to criticism and pressure. A beautiful feeling of calm welled up from within as I wrote the last passage with my dominant hand.
I realized I had found my own fairy godmother -- inside! This dialogue between my right and left hand, between the Parent and Child, gave me a new perspective on my illness. In rereading the dialogue I was able to stand aside and witness the inner conflict.
The inactivity of being sick in bed had felt like "sitting in a rut It was part of being "born into the light. I could feel this loving and nurturing fairy godmother voice within coaching me through this rebirth.
She spoke soothingly -- "not forcing, not pushing -- just relaxing and letting life happen and letting me happen naturally. But now I had the tools for dealing with that nagging voice when it returned again. After acknowledging the critic, all I had to do was let my Inner Child express her feelings and know she was okay just the way she was.
Within a few weeks of this journal dialogue, I fully recovered from my illness. Incidentally, many years later the intuition of my Inner Child was confirmed regarding the nature of my condition.
A diagnostician trained in iridology and sclerology informed me that I had been suffering with a life-threatening disease affecting the collagen, or connective tissue in the body. He also saw that I had recovered completely.
After resuming my career as a free-lance designer and artist, it became clear that my heart was no longer in that work. Perhaps it would be more accurate to say that my Inner Child had lost enthusiasm for the decorative and commercial art that I was doing. All she wanted to do was write and draw the inner world of feelings and intuition.
Of course, my Critical Parent panicked, believing that such personal art and writing was ugly, a waste of time, and incapable of providing me with a livelihood. Fortunately, I turned up the volume on the Inner Child's voice and followed my heart right into a career as an art therapist. How did it feel when you realized you made a mistake? What did you learn from making this mistake? Once they have answered these questions, discuss the mistake with them. Praise them for their effort, acknowledge that they have made progress by completing this reflection, and encourage them to try new strategies in the future.
You can click here to learn about the activity this exercise is based on. Challenge Your Fixed Mindset Voice This activity involves four steps that are not all that easy, but that can help you to develop the foundation for a lasting growth mindset. Step 1: Learn to hear your fixed mindset voice.
Pay attention to the voice that pops up when you face a new or particularly daunting challenge. This is the voice of your fixed mindset, and it likely only has negative things to say about you and your abilities.
Step 2: Recognize that you have a choice. It is up to you to decide how you want to interpret and respond to challenges, setbacks, criticism , and failure. Tell yourself that you have a choice, and do your best to believe it! Step 3: Talk back to it with your growth mindset voice. When the fixed mindset voice comes nagging at you, start to talk back to it. Question it, throw doubt on its conclusions, and generally counter it wherever you can. Even those with the greatest inherent talent need to work hard to succeed in their field.
Step 4: Take the growth mindset action. Finally, once you have tons of practice challenging the fixed mindset voice with your growth mindset voice, it will become easier to take the growth mindset action. Taking the growth mindset action means: Taking on the challenge wholeheartedly. Learning from your setbacks and trying again.
Hearing the criticism and taking constructive action. Continue listening to both voices and acting on the growth mindset voice as often as possible, and you will have an excellent foundation for the right mindset.
Click here to see this exercise at its source. In this book, Dweck describes the importance of having the right mindset to maximize our potential and capitalize on our strengths. This theory explains how the way we think about our intelligence, abilities, and talents can have a huge impact on our success in every area of life. It focuses on both improving your own mindset and on building the right mindset in children, making it an excellent read for parents, teachers, coaches, and managers.
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Keeping this board in a highly-trafficked area will ensure that kids see these statements and are constantly reminded that they can choose to change their perspective on their problems. What are your thoughts on this theory?
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Do you find it plausible, or do you think inherent abilities are more important than this theory assumes? Have you tried any growth mindset activities? Let us know in the comments! Thanks for reading, and good luck with building a growth mindset!
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Includes exercises and experiments to tap the creative and intuitive potential of the non-dominant hand. Get A Copy. Paperback , Revised , pages. Published June 20th by New Page Books first published More Details Original Title. Other Editions 6. Friend Reviews. To see what your friends thought of this book, please sign up. Lists with This Book. Community Reviews. Showing Rating details. Sort order. Jul 05, Jeane Watier rated it it was amazing Shelves: Journaling has taken on a whole new dimension!
Dec 22, Rose rated it really liked it. I normally wouldn't read a book like this because I generally head straight to the fiction section of all bookstores. I did it often enough that I actually got quite good but maybe it was also good for me. Sep 11, Iryna rated it it was ok. I can believe that writing with a non-dominant hand can help you develop some hidden abilities but I can't see how through my left hand I can speak with multiple identities within me and even parts of my body.
It's still the same brain that dictates to either hand. I did the exercises but nothing happened. But I will try use my left hand more often. Jul 18, Pepper rated it it was amazing Shelves: Thought provoking and perfect! The exercises are wonderfully helpful. I have shed so many tears as I rediscover my left-handedness that was stolen from me in kindergarten. I have felt incomplete my entire life because of it. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for helping me rediscover my true self!
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